I made a decision last week to sit down and write out my vision for my life. If I had millions of dollars and money was no issue, what would my life look like? I’ve always loved this exercise, I’m working from home, travel is involved, I exercise and come and go as I please. But when I started going deeper, into the “perfect day” I have to pause and think harder.
In my visions, I’m always alone with family scattered when it’s convenient for me
I wake up on my own in my beautifully decorated home, I make myself a cup of tea and enjoy it on our lanai overlooking our beautiful lake. I enjoy the warm, crisp air and enjoy the sounds of nature. It’s so peaceful, calm, and beautiful. I am full of gratitude. I get the kids off to school after a healthy breakfast. I am making more than I ever could have imagined doing work that I love and is making a difference in the world. I am able to take breaks to go for walks or have lunch with a friend. My schedule is my own and when I’m with my family, I’m really there, able to enjoy them.
In reality, this is not the case. Although I have done a lot of work to calm the chaos in our home, there is still a lot of responsibility. I have to get the kids up, get them to school, work most of the day, get the kids from school, do dinner or extracurricular activities and then a few scattered moments for myself. My vision sounds like I have no responsibility or children. Maybe that’s why my vision is centered on having calm and solitude. If I had none of the above, my vision would be to have family in my life. How will all of this work?
I’m getting too stuck on the “how” and I think that’s where most of us stop. We have dreams of how our life could be, but once we start thinking about the “how’s”, we stop because it seems impossible. How can I quit my job when we have a mortgage? How can I live freely when I have dinner to make and homework to check? How can I be free when the kids are fighting and screaming at each other and I have to take 10 breaks every 30 minutes to answer questions or help my kids?
I’m learning that the whole idea of a vision is to expand my current reality into a new energy and vibration. I know that sounds a little woo-woo, but I can feel the hope, and peace when I think of my vision. The expansion stops when I start thinking of the how. When I dream of the feelings I want to feel and the things I want to do, I feel expansive, like I can accomplish anything. But thinking of the how, or interjecting my hidden beliefs I feel constrictive.
If I continue to focus on my vision, I will start attracting these things into my life to make my vision come true. Maybe it’s a side job, passive income, ect and one thing leads to another to make one dream come true. And then another and another. And who am I to say that my specific vision is the best version of that vision out there, there could be something better.
These are the tools I use to keep my vision in a positive, expansive light:
1. Meditation and Visualization
I meditate daily. I spend half the time focusing on my breath, and the other half visualizing the things I want. A peaceful day, strength, a beautiful life…my vision.
Picture of my vision Board for 2017
2. Look at my vision
I wrote my vision out and posted it in my bathroom. I read it in the morning and in the evening. I also made a vision board with images of the things I want in my life.
3. Connect with like minded people
Connection is the fuel of this journey. It can be done alone, but it’s so much harder. Having like minded people around give you the zap of energy needed to continue and produce the strength needed to push through the hard times.
4. Stay in conversation
I continually ask myself what I want. How do I want to feel? How can I be the best version of myself.
This is not to say that I am perfect in all of these areas, but they are helping. I find my focus to be a little easier to manage when I have these practices in place. Less hamster wheel, more enlightenment.
I am grateful for the awareness to explore these issues. What is your vision? Can you see how you’re stopping yourself? Share your thoughts!
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